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The Way You Show Up
Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.
You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
The Way You Show Up
The Keys To Better Communication In Your Marriage
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This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State.
Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!
Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.
They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.
Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.
PIES Takeaways
- Be an interesting person/work on your PIES - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/3468169
- There is always hope, even in difficult situations
- Watch your body language and tone with your spouse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/4938500
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
🔗 Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com
🎥YouTube https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes
📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes
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