It Starts With Attraction
Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose.
You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
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Episodes
256 episodes
The Truth About Trauma
Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects ...
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Episode 244
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50:39
Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making
Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience!
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Episode 243
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39:49
Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions
Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode!
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Episode 242
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46:24
10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive
Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy?
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Episode 241
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32:22
The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication
Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between!Let’s dive i...
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Episode 240
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51:48
The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals
Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desir...
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Episode 239
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40:34
The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals
In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, includin...
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Episode 238
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1:03:48
How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025
One of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year.In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set at...
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Episode 237
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40:51
The 4 Part Framework To Stand For Your Marriage
Experiencing the highs and lows of marriage led me to a profound realization: attraction isn't just about the physical—it's a holistic process encompassing the Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects. Last week I was able to sh...
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Episode 236
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43:12
Unpacking the Real Costs of Social Media with Chris Martin
What if the digital world was costing us more than we realized? In this episode, we sit down with Chris Martin, an insightful author who has navigated the depths of social media’s real costs. Chris shares his journey of writing a thought-provok...
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Episode 235
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54:23
How To Become More Attractive INTELLECTUALLY
This episode was recorded in 2022.Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This was the second time Rob joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about
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Episode 234
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38:53
Navigating Mental Health and Technology for the Next Generation with Zach Rausch
Discover the hidden costs of our digital age as I sit down with Zach Rausch, the lead researcher behind "The Anxious Generation." Zach opens up about his personal journey with mental health challenges and how it fueled his passion to explore th...
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Episode 233
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55:46
The Surprising Connection Between Creativity and Intelligence
In this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative!Discover how engaging in creative activities might be the key to alleviating stress and e...
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Episode 232
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37:16
The Secret To Mindset Transformation
Discover the power of mindset transformation in this inspiring interview with Dr. Josh Axe. After facing a life-altering health crisis, Dr. Axe shares how changing his mindset played a critical role in his recovery and personal growth. F...
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Episode 231
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58:02
The True Measure of Success
Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The resea...
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Episode 230
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22:19
How and Why You Should Do Your Own Research
What if you could unlock the secrets to reading scholarly research articles as easily as a captivating novel? This episode promises just that, equipping you with the skills to discern credible academic work from unreliable sources. Discover how...
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Episode 229
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22:28
The Secret to LIVING Your FAITH Out Loud
This episode was recorded in 2022What happens when a teenage mother becomes a Christian influencer, inspiring women worldwide? Join us for a compelling conversation with Yasmine Williams-Woods as she shares her remarkable journ...
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Episode 228
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40:25
How Ignoring Time Together Can Destroy Your Marriage
Could the secret to a thriving marriage lie in the simple act of intentionally spending time together? Join me and my husband, Rob, as we recount our own experiences of navigating the demanding world of military life while keeping our relations...
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Episode 227
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Are You PROTEIN Deficient Without Even Knowing It?
Discover how much protein you truly need for optimal health and why animal protein is often heralded as the go-to source for essential amino acids. We'll tackle the everyday obstacles of meeting protein requirements, particularly when dining ou...
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36:16
Navigating Intimacy And Passion For A More Fulfilling Marriage
Ever wondered why some relationships thrive in emotional closeness while others struggle to maintain even a semblance of connection? Discover the intricate dynamics of the "Triangulation of Love," where intimacy, passion, and commitment play pi...
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7:18
Accepting Each Other Changed Our Marriage COMPLETELY
Have you ever felt superior to your partner or viewed them through a critical lens because of their struggles? This episode could reshape your perspective. Today, I'm joined by my wonderful husband, Rob! We begin by unpacking the profound impor...
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Episode 225
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45:23
Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?
The full episode releases on October 1st!Does contempt silently poison your relationship? Discover how a sense of superiority and lack of respect can erode intimacy and trust in marriages. My husband, Rob, and I share po...
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7:12
Marriage Therapist Reveals How To Have More Fulfilling Sex
This episode was recorded in 2022.Unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling marriage with the insights of Dr. Corey Allan, a marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of "Naked Marriage: Un...
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Episode 224
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37:52
Does Your Menstrual Cycle Affect How You Work Out?
Can your menstrual cycle make or break your strength training progress? Today, we unlock the truth behind cycle-synced workouts and auto-regulation using the Rating of Perceived Exertion (RPE) scale. By examining how sleep, nutrition, and lifes...
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Marriage Expert Reveals What Leads To Relationship Failure
What drives relationships to their breaking point? In this episode, we uncover the intricate dynamics that influence the success and failure of romantic and personal connections. Discover what a 2017 study revealed about environmental stressors...
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Episode 223
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