The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show Up

I'm back, y'all and SO much has happened since the last time we talked. In this episode, I'm sharing the updated science of attraction and influence and breaking down the PIES method: the four pillars that change the way you show up in every area of your life.

PIES stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual, and each pillar has four specific inputs that you can control. These aren't about looking a certain way or performing for other people. They're about building the kind of embodied confidence that people notice when you walk into a room.
In this episode, I'm diving into all 16 inputs across the four pillars, busting some myths from the self-help world that keep people stuck, and sharing the personal experiences (including finishing my PhD!) that sparked a renewed vision for this work.

Oh, and I'm officially Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes now. 🎓

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In this episode, I cover:
The PIES method explained
The 4 inputs for Physical attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Intellectual attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Emotional attraction & influence
The 4 inputs for Spiritual attraction & influence
How to see where you're at risk for burnout
The free PIES assessment

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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Big Life Update And Return
• 3:47 Why Pause The Podcast
• 5:58 From Attraction To Influence
• 8:03 Leadership Is Influence
• 9:44 Introducing The PIES Pillars
• 10:49 Physical: Sleep As Foundation
• 13:36 Fuel, Movement, And Rest
• 18:31 Confidence As Physical Output
• 19:26 Intellectual: Curiosity And Humility
• 22:29 Critical Thinking And Perspective
• 25:32 Purposeful Learning And Voice
• 26:46 Emotional: Awareness To Grounded Identity
• 31:43 Empathy And Trust In Relationships
• 32:38 Spiritual: Calibration, Values, Service
• 36:40 Forgiveness, Grace, And Purpose
• 38:33 Inputs, Outputs, And Burnout Risk
• 40:34 Free Assessment And Next Steps

Transcript

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A lot's happened in the last year. Since the last time we spoke, you saw me, I didn't see you. The last time that I posted on here, and I would love to fill you in on it. Here's the first thing that happened. I finished my PhD. I can't begin to tell you how much of an achievement this is. My friend gave me this mug. It's Doctor, actually. Now I am officially Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, and here's the thing: I don't know that that actually makes me any smarter, but it definitely makes me a bit crazier. It's really a degree of persistence. And there was a ton of things that I learned in that process and through the research that I did that has influenced what I'm gonna share with you today and actually the reason that I'm back. Which brings me to number two. About a year ago, I paused my podcast, the It Starts with Attraction podcast. And it was honestly an incredibly hard decision. But I was at a time and place at that point in my life where I didn't see the vision for what to keep doing with it and how to keep moving forward. So we took a break. But over the past year, I have had a renewed vision, a renewed sense of energy, and a renewed understanding, honestly, of all things pies. Now, if this is the first time that you're watching this, you may be saying, pies, what does that even mean? Pies has been the acronym that I have used for the past several years to describe how people can be the most attractive that they can be in four areas: physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. But here's the thing that I have really come to have a better understanding of, especially over the past year, and it's two or threefold. The first part is that attraction, that word, holds a certain connotation. Typically, when people think of attraction, they think of a romantic type of way you need to look, neat way you need to be, in order to attract someone that you will date or that you will marry. It has, like I said, that romantic feel to it. But that's not what I really mean when I've been talking about attraction. Pies overall is the four different areas of our life that we have control of and that we can influence the way that we show up by focusing on these four areas. So the more that I thought about it, the more I thought it's not just about attraction. It's about, in some ways, attraction, yes, but not just in romantic relationships. It's more so about influence and influencing the way that we show up in every area of our lives. I mean, think about it. Who doesn't want to be more confident, more calm, have more clarity on what they need to do and what they want to do with their future, have more clarity on the ways that they can work on themselves in order for them to be the best that they can be. And I know there's a lot of people out there who have talked about this in the self-help space and in the personal development space. And honestly, there's some really good stuff out there. And honestly, there's some stuff out there that I think is incredibly misleading and can keep people stuck on this hamster wheel of feeling like they're never good enough and they have to keep doing so many different things in order for them to feel good about themselves. I'm going to break down some of those myths the further into this video that we go. But overall, what I have become incredibly passionate and invigorated by is this concept of continuing to learn more and more about the science of attraction and influence. Now, I understand influence may also be one of those words that has a good and a bad feeling to it. People can influence you in great ways, but there's also people who use influence and turn it into manipulation. That's not what we want. I want you to think when you hear the word influence about being asked the question: who has been the most influential person in your life? Now, yes, sometimes we can answer that question and say, well, it was someone who did something terrible to me because it shifted my life in an unexpected way. But more times than not, I believe that when we think of that question, we think of someone who has had a positive impact on our life. Now, one of the things that I know and have learned in my experience, even just in leadership, in running a company and being a leader in different areas of my life. And one of the things I learned from John Maxwell, who many of you know as maybe the leadership guru of the century, has been that leadership is influence at its core. It's your ability to care for someone, for them to know that you care about them in such a way that you influence their life in a positive direction. I believe that there are aspects of our pies working on ourselves, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, that don't just impact us in the way we feel about ourselves, but it impacts the way that others will ultimately feel about themselves too. That's what I'm so excited to dive in with you. Finally, I want to share with you today the updated science of attraction and influence. Here's the really cool thing, y'all. One of the things that I have learned, one of the many things that I've learned over the past year, but honestly more, because I've been a geek about all things pies for probably more than a decade, is that yes, there's an aspect of pies that influences how attractive you are to another person. So, like when you're in the dating world and you're trying to attract someone, yes, pies are helpful there. But as I said before, it's also even more encompassing in all of the ways that you show up in work, at home, in your marriage, in your parenting. The way you show up has an impact. Now, for each area of the pies, I will call them pillars, the pies pillars. So physical is a pillar, intellectual is a pillar, emotional is a pillar, and spiritual is a pillar. There are four inputs. Inputs are the things that you and I have control over. They are the things that we can pour into, or maybe sometimes if we don't do, we'll see the negative effect of not working on those inputs. But they are the things that we can control that actually make a difference in the way other people see us, the way other people experience us, the way we show up in all of these areas of our lives. And so that's what I want to dive into on today's video. So when we think about the pies, like I said, each one is a pillar. We're gonna start with the first one, which is physical. Now, a lot of times when people think about physical, again, they think of how they look, what size they are, whether they want to be skinnier or whether sometimes they want to be bigger. Men tend to want to be more muscular, women tend to want to be more skinny, right? And that actually aligns with the research out there. And part of what I did my PhD research in was that part of body esteem. And there are those differences in men and women. So a lot of times when you think about physical, we think, oh, it's all about how I look. There is a part of it, yes, that is about how you look. But the more you focus on how you look, it goes back to this hamster wheel mentality. It goes back to you're always going to have to be thinking about your next diet, your next workout plan, the way that you want to change yourself. Maybe if you even decide to go on medicines or get different surgeries in order for you to look a certain way. And ultimately, you're never going to be happy with yourself. You're never truly going to have sustained confidence in who you are and how you show up, the more you just focus on how you look. And so the four inputs that I'm going to talk about for physical are as follows. The first one, and I believe that it is truly the most important one, is sleep. This is your where everything starts physically. If you don't get good sleep, then honestly, there comes a point where your body, your reaction time, the way that your body processes its hormones and all of the things going on within it, it begins to think that you're a drunk person. There was a study several years ago, this was covered in Matthew Walker's book about sleep, that people who got four hours of sleep or less a night the next day, when they were tested for reaction times, their reaction times, judgment, and all of those things were similar to that of a drunk driver. That shows, along with many other studies that there are out there on sleep, that when we don't get enough of it, our body literally can't be healthy. We start craving things in order to just keep us awake. Those things aren't always the healthiest for us. We then feel bad. It makes us crave more of those things, those ultra-processed foods, all high-fat foods, all of that. And so sleep helps us regulate. It helps us regulate our body and the systems that run inside of our body, as well as help us to regulate our emotions. I remember a time several years ago, I was in Texas with my dad. We were on a trip and he ended up getting food poisoning. We didn't know it was food poisoning at the time. We just know that he was super sick, something was wrong. I ended up having to take him to the ER. He was having to speak the very next morning. We were at the ER midnight. They ended up finding, they did a CT scan for some reason, and in that ended up finding something wrong elsewhere in his body that they couldn't fix then, but they knew that he would have to go back to his doctor and get that further investigated. Okay, why am I saying all of this? That night I didn't get very much sleep. And all the next day, there was this overwhelming sense of dread and doom and fear and anxiety. Mainly because of my dad's diagnosis and the things that they had said at the ER, but also because I literally didn't have the ability to emotionally regulate due to my lack of sleep. That next night, I got a good eight hours. And while I was still concerned about my dad the next day, I was able to handle it in a much better way. It impacted the way I showed up. Sleep is important. You should get a minimum, minimum minimum of six hours a night, ideally somewhere between seven and nine. The second pillar for physical attraction is nutrition and hydration, honestly. It's what you eat, it's how you fuel your body. And I'm not here to be the police of eating all things healthy, all things whole foods, all things organic, but clearly there are vitamins, minerals, and nutrients, both macronutrients, which are the carbs, the protein, and the fats, as well as micronutrients, which are our vitamin A, K, E, minerals, magnesium, calcium, all of those things in the foods that we eat. Now, there is a lack of that, those essential macro and micro and micronutrients in super processed foods, which is why it's so important to eat things of multiple colors that come straight from the ground. So things such as those leafy greens, colorful foods, fruits and vegetables, as well as meats, protein, fish, as well as beans, rice, starchy carbs that are also healthy, potatoes, sweet potatoes, all of those things are gonna fuel your body and you're ultimately going to end up feeling better. We all know that. We just know that it's also hard to do. I'm not saying you have to do this 100% of the time. I think a great rule to think about is doing an 80-20. 80% of the time, if you can eat a healthy meal and 20% of the time, indulge. It'll help you stay more on track with eating healthy. The third input that we look at for physical is movement. Honestly, this one is probably my favorite. Super close to sleep. I also really love my sleep. But movement, you've all seen that arthritis commercial, a body in motion, stays in motion. It's true. The more we move, the more we work on our muscle and our muscle tone and our aerobic capacity, basically, all that to say the more resistance or strength training that we do helps us to actually build muscle. Why is muscle important? Not just because of how we look, although a lot of people want to have a toned-looking body, and there's nothing wrong with that. But as we age, the muscle and the muscle mass that we have on our bodies helps us to be healthier as we age. It helps us to be able to continue to carry our own luggage, carry groceries in from the car when we get into our 70s and 80s. It helps us to continue to have balance so we don't fall and break something. And the more muscle capacity that you gain, the younger that you are, the more likely you are to be able to maintain that as you age. Starting at 40, I'm getting close. Starting at 40, you begin to lose muscle mass. And so it's even more important that you focus on that strength training. However, aerobic capacity, cardio, no one likes it, everyone hates it, but it's so important for us, for our heart health and for us to ward off atherosclerosis and cardiovascular disease as we get older. And it's going to help us be able to meet the demands of our life even better. I have a friend who several years ago she got pregnant and she got pregnant in her late 30s, which is a geriatric pregnancy, which is sounds terrible, but she was a crossfitter way before that. She was used to high capacity, high interval, high heart rate being really demanding or having really demanding situations put on her body. And when she went into labor with her daughter, she ended up actually having something really terrible happen to her. She ended up pretty much passing out, but she ended up making it through. And the doctors and nurses told her it's because you were in such good shape. Your heart was able to handle the demand of this. Movement is important, not only because it helps us stay agile and flexible and it protects us against things that can happen as we age, but also because we ultimately end up feeling more confident in ourselves the more we move and the more we feel capable in our body. The fourth pillar that we look at under physical attraction is rest. You may be thinking, but that's sleep. It's not sleep. Rest is incredibly different than sleep. You still need to get your seven to nine hours of sleep, but also how are you intentionally finding time to rest? To not be producing, to not be doing, to not be getting everything done off of your to-do list around the house, but to actually just rest. To find something you enjoy doing that's going to refuel you and refill you and rejuvenate you. These are the four inputs. These are the things that we can control when it comes to our physical health. And here's what happens: when we focus on these things, we end up showing up differently. When we walk into a room, we're going to feel more confident because we feel better, because we're fueling ourselves right with what we eat, because we're moving and we feel more confident and comfortable in our own skin. Other people, when you walk into a room, are going to notice. Wouldn't that be great? If you could enter in a room and not just be the center of attention, that's not what this is about, but for people to actually notice your presence, it makes a difference. When we can have an embodied confidence, when we walk into a room, people think, hmm, this person is able to do things. This person has input that I may want to hear. And it's all just because, not just how you look, it's not about a size that you are, it's about a confidence you bring with you when you walk into a space. That is the output overall of physical attraction and physical influence. It's important. Now, the next pillar we're going to focus on is intellectual attraction. For intellectual, the first input that we can focus on is curiosity and openness. This is a question mark, not because I'm saying I'm questioning that, but I'm putting the question marks because it's all about having a questioning mindset. Not a devil's advocate trying to catch someone else's mindset. But when you disagree with someone, instead of saying, How could you be such an idiot? It's more so asking, can you tell me more about that? When someone sees something differently than you, when your daughter makes a decision that you think is absolutely insane, instead of just diving right into how could you think something like that? What in the world? It's opening a question, it's starting a conversation. Tell me more about how or why you think that way. People who have higher levels of curiosity and openness in the communication that they have with other people, they end up actually having overall better self-esteem and levels of self of uh overall satisfaction with life scores are higher. And we also know that these people tend to have better, like not just relationships, but opportunities given to them in their life. Because when you are curious and open, you start conversations, you don't push other people away. The second pillar for intellectual attraction is humility. Intellectual humility specifically. You've all been to a party, and there's the person who just knows everything. They're always right, they always want to be right. If you try and tell them they're wrong, you're gonna end up getting into a never-ending conversation about how you're the one who's actually wrong. We we all unfortunately know those people. That's what you would call an intellectually arrogant person who has absolutely no humility. But when someone has a mindset, yes, of curiosity and openness, like we said before, but this is even deeper. It's someone who's willing to say, I don't have all the answers, and I am okay with that. It's a mindset of a perpetual learner, a perpetual student, that anyone could have something to teach me, and I don't have to be right about everything. That is what intellectual humility is. If you cringed a little when you heard me say you don't have to be right about everything, and you thought, yes, I do, this may be a huge opportunity for you to do more of. This may be an important input for you. The third input under intellectual is critical thinking and perspective taking. Sometimes we can be so curious and so open-minded that we lose the ability to actually make a decision or decide which way we want to believe about something for ourselves. Everything we hear, we entertain. It's kind of like that saying, maybe you've heard this isn't exactly how it's said, but don't be so open-minded that your brain falls out of your head. It's that kind of idea here. We also need to critically think about things and not just accept everything we hear as gospel truth. Believe it or not, everything you read on the internet isn't true. This is where critical thinking and wisdom comes in. And this is even more important in the age of AI. Not accepting everything that Jim and I, Chat GPT, whichever one you listen to, or even things you see posted by real people, which are now just being given to you by AI, and it lacks critical thinking. Everything's starting to just sound the same. I won't get on that soapbox. The other part we need to think about, though, is also perspective taking. How can you put yourself into another person's shoes to try and see things from their point of view? I have a friend named TJ, and she is the director of this amazing organization in the Nashville area that helps people who are in underprivileged situations to be able to have better opportunities in their life. And there was one 17-year-old boy that she was telling me about one time, and he said, the hardest thing for me is when, and he was a black man, and he said, The hardest thing for me is when I am walking down the street and I see a white woman, she sees me approaching and she moves her purse from one side of her body, the one that I will pass by closest to, to the other because I know she thinks a certain way about me. Man, like hearing that from him, it's so heartbreaking. And it even allowed me from that point forward to be so mindful of when I'm walking in or out of a grocery store. Am I just looking at someone, thinking about them a certain way, and doing something in order to try and protect myself, which is not always a bad thing. But how might it make this other person feel when they feel just totally stereotyped? This is what perspective taking helps us to do. It helps us to see the world differently so that we can maybe understand how we show up a little bit differently. And then the fourth input under intellectual is purposeful learning. Purposeful. It's not getting on Instagram and on Facebook or just scrolling, it's not just digesting. Any piece of content that comes in front of you. It's being purposeful about what is it that I want to learn, what is it that I want to do, what is it that I want to know, and how can I curate the content that I see and engage with and let come into my mind in a very intentional way that is purposeful and helps me to become better. Curating content, curating your social media, being intentional about what goes into your mind, of course, is going to impact what comes out of your mouth. So when we think about the output for intellectual attraction, overall, it is about people being interested in what you have to say. Are they gonna lean in when you speak? Do they believe that you are gonna have good judgment? Are you going to bring wisdom to the table? Are they going to want to listen to you? And there's two major ways that people begin to uh struggle with this. The first one is the person I talked about earlier who just takes over conversations, who it has to be their way or the highway. That's the person that in many ways people may do what they want, what that person says to do, but they'll resent it. They're not going to really ever want to hear what that person has to say because that person says all they have to say all day long. Now, on the other side of this, there is the person who is timid about speaking up. They have great things to say, but they have not been confident in the way that they speak, in how they show up. And so people overlook them. You may be one of these two, maybe you're in the middle, but this is your opportunity and understanding when you do these things, it can give you the confidence to speak up in a way that people will listen. And it affects the way that you show up. The third part of attraction and influence is emotional. Many people's favorite because many people didn't even know it was a part of attraction or influence. Emotional attraction and influence is all about the way that you make other people feel, and it's about having the confidence to know that when you are there for other people, that they are going to turn to you, that you're going to be the kind of person people want to go to when times get hard. There are four ways, four inputs that we put into here as well. The first one is emotional awareness. You may think this is a bit crazy, but it's literally the ability to name your feelings. It's crazy to me. I'm I will admit, self-admit, that maybe I'm a little too heavy on like being able to name my feelings. I am a pretty emotional person, and I have to I have to kind of do the opposite where I don't think about my feelings so much because I can think about them too much and they can kind of take over. But some people are the opposite of me. My husband, in some ways, can be the opposite of me, especially when we first got married. He was in the military, very militaristic mindset. We don't have feelings. Feelings are for pansies, feelings are for wimps, right? That's the mindset that some people have grown up with or were in a job or type of work where feelings weren't allowed. Now, how do you think that shows up in relationships, at future work, at home, in other types of relationships in your life? If you aren't able to identify and name the feelings that you have, do you think you're going to be able to understand and be there for other people when they try and share their feelings with you? No, you're not. And I'll dive more into that in a minute. So emotional awareness, being able to know and name your own feelings. The second one is self-regulation. So this is your ability to not only know your feelings, but to calm yourself down so that your feelings won't take over. This feeling could be anger. You get so angry that you just want to lash out at everyone. You're irritable every way you show up. This feeling could be fear. You're just so nervous, so anxious, so overwhelmed at what could possibly happen that you don't do anything. Of course, there's a variety of feelings, but it's the ability to self-regulate and not let your feelings control you. That is the point here. The third input for emotional attraction is attuned understanding. Really, this is all about empathy. When someone turns towards you, when your son comes home at the end of a day of school and someone just made fun of him on the bus and he's heartbroken about it. When he comes to you and says, This terrible thing happened and I'm so upset, are you gonna say, eh, that other kid was just being a jerk? Don't even listen to him. You think you're being there for your son, but in reality, you just brushed him off. He doesn't feel any better after the end of you saying that. What he's wanting is for you to turn towards him, to have empathy. I'm so sorry that that just happened. Tell me how you feel. To help him process his emotions, to be there for him, and to let him know that you are there for him no matter what. That's a tuned understanding. And then finally is grounded identity. Grounded identity is all about self-differentiation. It's where you're able to have your emotions, you're able to sit with someone else in their emotions, but not let their emotions consume you, and also not try and let your emotions consume someone else. You hear this a lot, uh, and maybe one of the best ways I can describe it is when it comes to when divorce happens in families. So sometimes a parent will try and triangulate their child. They will try and get their child to see the divorce their way and get the child on their side. That is a negative way where we are trying to consume another person with our emotions and make them see things our way. That's when we're trying to uh that's it, that's when self-differentiation, like we're we're trying to control another person to agree with us. But then on the other side of it, it is when you are so overwhelmed with your own emotions. But then the other side of it is when there's another person who is just so emotionally uneven and unkiltered, and you are drawn in. You try and fix everything for them in order for them to be happy. Neither of those are healthy. So what we want to focus on is having a grounded identity. I can be the stable person even when the people around me are struggling. I'm still gonna show up for them and show them I care, but I'm not gonna let the wave of their emotion sweep me under. Now, the output of this is that people feel like you care, but you're able to care because it's coming from a place of inner peace and inner strength, because you are emotionally healthy. When you focus on these inputs of emotional attraction and influence, you feel more confident to be a good friend, a good wife, a good husband, a good coworker for someone who needs a shoulder to cry on, a better leader and being able to lead a team that you lead because you are emotionally grounded first, but they will feel that. If you're anxious, the people around you will be anxious. If you're angry, the people around you will want to be away from you. But if you're grounded and able to control your emotions, people will trust you. This leads us to the final area of attraction, which is spiritual. The first of these is soul calibration. Soul calibration is all about prayer and inner stillness. It's the ability for you to find time away from the craziness, from the noise, from the expectations that people have of you in your life, and find that time to be still. If you're a person of faith, it's the importance of prayer, the importance of talking with God, of hearing from God in a way that will still you and calm you like nothing else can. It's also, if you're a person of faith, it is reading the Bible, reading scripture, having that grounded belief in something bigger than yourself that guides your daily actions. This is what gives us life. It's what gives us purpose, it's what gives us focus, and it's an important part of spiritual attraction and influence. The second input here is moral direction. You've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything. That's definitely an old country song, but I bet that's an adage that's been around for forever. It's attractive to be a person who has beliefs and values, especially in a world right now that's so scared of doing or saying the wrong thing that you don't know what anyone really thinks or believes anymore. Now, you don't do this in a way to push other people away or to be divisive. I am definitely not a fan of that, but it's important to have strong beliefs and values. Your beliefs and values are the filters that help you make decisions and hopefully help you live a life of integrity where you're willing to do the right thing even when it's the hardest thing to do. That's attractive. And when people see that in you, they see character. They see that you're the kind of person willing to do what's hard, willing to do what is against society or culture. But guess what? People trust that. The third input is caring for others. We can get so focused on ourselves, how we look, how we're showing up, that it can become too much about us. That's not the goal. The goal of our life is not just to take everything in and soak it in for us, it's to pour out for others, to make a difference in the world. So caring for others is a huge focus and important input for spiritual attraction. It's the way that you live out your beliefs and values in showing your love for other people. The fourth input is forgiveness and grace. When you are unable to forgive yourself for things that you've done in your past, when you're unable to forgive other people for things that they've done to you, you harbor that. It turns into resentment. When people are unable and unwilling to forgive, the research even tells us that it affects their mental health. They're more likely to be depressed, they're more likely to get sick more often. There's an actual physical impact on not forgiving and not accepting or giving grace to people, especially when it's undeserved. Of course, as a Christian, I see this as so fundamental because I know that I have been forgiven only because the ultimate forgiveness has been given to me based on Jesus and based on him forgiving all sins, mine and yours, and for him to extend grace, unmerited favor that I could never earn or deserve. But when I have that, that is the launch pad, that is the catalyst for me of how I can ultimately give that to others. There's people I don't want to forgive, but I always remember, not always, I should remember it more, but I do consistently remember the story in scripture where Jesus' disciples ask him, How many times should I forgive this person? And Jesus says, 70 times seven, which doesn't literally mean 490. It means as many times as you have to. Now, when you focus on these inputs, it's going to help you be more confident in the way that you live out your beliefs and values in the world around you. You're going to have more of an internal propulsion to go out, to serve, to tell others about the things that you believe, maybe even share your faith, to go and do things that will make an actual difference in the world because you believe that that's what needs to happen. If you want to make the world a better place, it has to start with you. I love Mother Teresa's quote where she said, let no one leave you until they are better than when they came. And I believe that we all have a responsibility here on this earth in the relationships that we have with others, in the needs that we see outside in society, whether that be globally or locally, that maybe we are the ones who are supposed to help meet those needs and actually do something meaningful with our lives. Now, here's the really cool thing. You've learned all the inputs, you've learned a little bit about the overarching theme of each output. There's actually several different ways that these that the way you show up looks in each different pillar. I don't have time to get in that into that today, but ultimately there's a really cool way you can begin to see this for yourself. I, as you know, am a researcher. I geek out on tons of things. And one of the cool things that uh our team did was actually made a way for people to be able to see on a high level their scores of their inputs, how well they're doing in each area of their pies versus their outputs. How are other people seeing the way that they show up? And so we have this cool graph where uh if you look at it this way, there's the P, there's the E, there's I E S, right? Um, these are inputs on a scale of one to seven. And so someone could see, oh man, my physical input is ended up only being a two, and my physical output ended being a five. And they can do that with each area of this, and it just gives you insight to be able to see where where you are. There's so much more to go in depth in that in terms of if like what your scores mean and what they tell me and what they can tell you about where your foundation is actually broken, and that's something that you really need to focus on right now. It also tells you in which areas you are most at risk for burnout. If there's an area that your output is way higher than your input, then you're at risk for burnout in that area. On the flip side, if your input is really high in a given area, but your output is really low, that shows that you have a really amazing potential to increase your capacity in that area. That's your biggest area for growth to really change the way that you show up in your life for others. So if you want to see that, it's a free assessment. It's just eight questions. It's super high level. It doesn't get as in-depth as some of the other assessments that I've created is specifically for this, but in a super high-level way, you'll be able to see your inputs, your outputs, the gap, the focus that you need to have completely free. Either click the link on the screen or it'll be in the show notes below. As you can see, I am super excited about this updated science of attraction and influence and the relaunch of the podcast and the YouTube channel, where we're gonna be talking about the way you show up. So be sure that you, if you're a podcast person, go and follow the podcast, The Way You Show Up, with Kimberly Doctor, Kimberly Beam Holmes, uh, as well as subscribe to the YouTube channel. I'm gonna be posting every single week. Of course, if you want that free assessment, you'll also join the email list when you get that, and I'll be sending out emails every week as well. I'm excited to go on this journey, and I'm really, really excited for you to join me. Until next time, stay strong.